[2020] Bought the game but i cri

This is a good introduction to the game:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=22K-bcK7-ts&t=1358s&ab_channel=HardenedShellTactics

It sounds like you're settling in areas that are not peaceful. That's why you get attacked so early on. When choosing your settlement location, try to pick one that has peaceful as the threat rating.