HoneyTower

https://www.riotgames.com/en/news/celebrating-idahotb-2019

"This user literally just offered you an easier way to your solution and you shot him down and told him that you would rather take the hard way by asking a community that really isnt that interested in your search criteria. "

You say "a community that really isn't that interested in your search criteria... "
If comatorium is part of the league community and is looking to connect at that level, that means you can't claim unequivocally that the whole community ain't interested in that search criteria.
Also, the probability that comatorium is the only one with that need out of millions of player is doubtful... See it this way, if one person in the room is asking, there is probably a lot of people in the room that has been thinking about it.

Finally, there is multiple reasons, ALL valid, to play video games. Some it's to blow up stress, some it's to achieve greatness, some is to stay connected with friends that live now apart because of college, etc... I d...

Renozoki, I like the passion in the topic, I think you highlighted something interesting. You want me to replace it with "looking to play with str8 people" and how it would make me feel?

Actually, it wouldn't really make me feel anything. Everyone has the right to associate with whoever they want. There is a difference between "I refuse to let "X" people exist in my society" and "I would like to connect with "X" people in society".

Also, there is books and research that highlights how being part of a minority (culture, language, skin color, sexual orientations and whatnot) and how it impacts people's personal, emotional development.

For example, a lot of LGBT+ people don't start to have actually "romantic" types of relationships as early as heterosexual people. As of, heterosexual might explore "connecting romantically" when they are young, most LGBT+ folks might explore it later when they are in their late teens/early twenties. At this point, their emotiona...

So, I don't disagree with your statements, but I also don't think they are mutually exclusive nor being able to comparative.

Btw, he's not looking for people with similar view points (view points as takes on politics, what,s good or bad, etc.) but just people that had a similar walk of life.

I don't think any kind of relationships is defined by how much they have in common... however, there is research on inter-cultural relations, as how enriching they can be (can be is highlighted), but how much more efforts and patience are required because you have to build a lot of common/shared pool of knowledge to be able to communicate on the same ground.

So yes, I strive and love to be put with people that are completely different than me, it helps me learn and discover new things. But, sometimes, I also need to be with people with whom I don't have to explain how I feel on certain topics, because they innately understands.

That's my whole point, one is not b...

SwigNation, you assume there is no reason to pinpoint a single community... yet, if he's asking for it, its because he feels there is a need.

On that note, no one holds the truth, but why don't you just try to understand where he's coming from rather than convincing him that he doesn't know what he wants? I think we can assume we are all grown ups with good intentions here and we all want to connect with human beings with whom we have affinity. He's just trying to find his group.

Are you part of any kind of minority? Were you always passionate about something that no one else around you cared for? Didn't it feel good when you could actually find someone else who walked those shoes with whom you could connect with? It didn't mean that person was better or that the relationships would be of greater quality, but it definitely felt good to be able to, for a second, feel like someone else knew what you were going through.

I think, that's all he's wanting and ...

Renozoki, I would say, let other gay players actually assess if comatorium post/saying is degrading or not to them.
You are trying to talk on behalf of a really huge group here...

What is said here is that he wanted to connect with people that are both LGBT+ and care for League of Legends. That's all.

And yes, being gay defines who I am; being part of a minority groups impact a lot of things (you can read a lot of development studies/books on the topics). It might not prescribe anything in what I will become in my life, but being gay certainly defines who I am as an individual.

See it differently... Would you have been offended if the request was "looking for people who speaks French on NA server?", because I feel it would be easier for me to speak in my native language?

Ultimately, comatorium wants to connect with players with whom he can connect on a deeper level than just League, it's causing you no harms in any way, having zero impac...

We are individual because we express who we are? Only when you truly embrace the multiple layers of your identity you can be your own individual self?

I think what you meant was maybe "people need to stop clinging in sub group/clans/etc"? I hear you, I think, ultimately, we are all humans and need to act at a global level, but being inclusive shouldn't mean being "normalized" to all be the same.

Glad it was useful :)

Just remember, what "seems" like is often just our biased POV on something, if you ask for some more details, you usually open yourself to a whole new world of understanding :).

Cheers!

Nighthawk, one thing for sure is, someone calling their struggle doesn't diminished yours.
Any struggle is a struggle, you can't put them on a scale.

However, human sharing common struggles like to connect together, because, for me, it helps me not feel alone within my ecosystem.

I.e. I will never be able to understand truly, I can empathize, but understand truly what it is like to go through loosing your kid, I'm not a parent, I will never be able to understand that. Clearly a struggle, clearly parents that went through the same thing connecting is a powerful thing for them to share and a way to cope and be better on the other side.

Again, people wanting to connect around who they are, part of their identity or their struggle is not a matter of exclusion, but a matter of survival, coping, celebrating whatever they need, that can emerge from that specific group of peers that walked their shoes as well.

I'll play with ya!

I'll try to share my POV to see if it might help you understand more that type of request... I do think your question and reaction is legit, at first, it can seem odd, so I'll try to see if I can give you my POV to make you see what it feels like on the other side of the fence.

As mentioned above, LGBT folks share a defining factor that deeply connect them together, because they share similar life reality growing up and what not. It makes LGBT folks not better, but like you wouldn't know what it likes to grow up in India, if you were born in America, not being LGBT prevents you from connecting at that deep root experience level. (I wouldn't know what it is like to grow up as a straight guy and I won't pretend)

That being said, it doesn't prevent everyone to play together, it is actually encouraged. But the request here is not about finding "players to duoQ", what he's actually asking is finding a group of people with whom that person can bond and connect with th...

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Howdy Kotez43,

I do agree with you, a lot of times, people use events like these to get PR points.

In this case, some of us (Rioters), pitched the idea internally, because we are Gaymers and we thought doing something in the game, accessible to every player, could have a real meaningful impact. The idea was well received and the rest is history.

Hope you appreciate it :)