[2019] Unplayable now and theres no joy after paud for this game

Hmm, sounds like a case of “Rubber Banding”.

Are you and your friends playing on the official servers, or are you hosting your own server?

If you are on the official servers, could you give a shot at hosting your own server and see if that fixes this particular problem? If it does, then it’s probably network related, and that could be caused by plenty of reasons (distance to the server, ISP throttling, router having issues, packet loss, …), and a traceroute/packet loss analyzer could help diagnose the issue.