"if we criticize this we get hounded on, banned, & censored"
Elaborate, please? Sorry, but this sounds completely made up.
I'm also no sure what you mean by "the devs need to actually work with some of the modders" - we already do. Those who run the modding discord are part of our closed tester team, and usually know how mods will be affected more than a month in advance, and AFAIK last update this was put to use.
When mods break, it's usually due to an engine update and not the seasonal content itself - also keep in mind that mods are tagged on to a game, and not part of it. They will always break, because we can in no way anticipate how someone made their mods work with Deep Rock Galactic.