Thanks for your response. I disagree, but I see where you're coming from.
I genuinely wish I could not care. Like I've been called a faggot countless times, as have a lot of people online. But it hurts way, way more when you're queer, especially if they're saying it because you're queer. A couple weeks ago, a player searched my player name, found out I was trans, and spammed "tranny retard" in chat, telling me I'll never be a real woman, that I'm disgusting, etc.. Sometimes they can just tell from my voice.
I remember my mother explaining to me how my gay feelings were a sin back in seventh grade. I remember holding my breath every time conversion therapy was being voted on. I remember in church, the guest pastor (?) railing about how the degenerates and faggots like me are destroying the country, dropping the n bomb, etc.. These are deeply, deeply burned into my brain, and it is impossible for me to not think about them when I'm called that slur.
But this doesn't make me weak - this makes me traumatized. Weak is when you have the choice to do something better, but choose not to. When you could choose not to care about the other person's identity, but make it important. When you could choose to ban the hateful user, but choose not to, because "free speech".
Imagine everyone you interacted with had a button with that they could press to just break your toe. At any time. You don't have this power. You'd probably be really careful with who you interact with, right? You'd probably feel really on edge a lot of the time? Maybe get really emotional when it does happen that you have to live like this?
I understand it can sound like I'm being dramatic, especially when you don't feel this way. That I chose to be this sensitive for political points or something. I'm not, from the deepest part of my heart. I promise you.