Hey all! This is definitely a super frustrating thing to deal with. I'm really hoping that the match cancellation system we are introducing in Steel Wave will deal with this. You can read about it here.
Assuming you are talking about Ranked matches, the team is working on a fix for this issue that should be available next season. In addition, the team is working on a Match Cancellation feature that is being tested on the TTS at this time.
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