No need for apologies man. I wish I had been a little wiser in my teenage years and pursued a career in the tech industry (because I find that stuff pretty interesting these days), but my no means am I unhappy with where I'm at.
I'm also really glad to hear that you guys get a little bit of pull in the industry. I think that often people have a pessimistic view that game companies are being 100% dictated by the business suits who have never touched a console or gaming PC. From what I've seen from SOE/Daybreak through the years, it genuinely sounds like a pretty fun team to work with.
Dev teams tend to have pretty good clout and control over a lot of the facets of their game, but the higher-ups are the ones who make the big decisions about what games get made and with how many resources and with what kind of timeline. Good decisions happen when the Deciders council the Devs to make sure the opinions and market knowledge they're basing their decisions make sense.