I definitely understand that it is not ideal to not be able to join a friend’s server. We have more details to share on our plan to deal with queues that will be available later today, that we hope will help folks further.
It is important to keep in mind that servers are experiencing queues 6 - 8 hours during our paid launch – when the game goes free-to-play tomorrow, allowing players to continue to create characters on these servers would only create substantially larger queues on highly populated servers, which will prevent many, many more players from being able to get in game and effectively locking even more players out of the server (including those who have already been playing on it).