The Minekaze has base concealment with Camo of 6km. 2.5km Range by air. Those can be dropped even further if you get the concealment expert captains skill.
As for avoiding planes, I suggest seeing if a AA cruiser is near and keep close where you can. Early avoidance can be key in getting those early spots in.
Smoke can be a key aid in avoiding rocket attacks and can at times, allow you to break contact, and re-engage the enemy.
What DD's are folks taking out, low, mid, and high tier right now? What are your favorites?